Nanaimo Real Estate Blog
I hope that you enjoy this week’s article which I dedicate to Father’s Day next Sunday about what the toughest SOB taught me about real life, and in turn, anything you do. “Muscles McCullough” as he was infamously known in our working class neighbourhood of Thunder Bay, Ontario, was not a tall man, maybe 6 ft, was head of the boxing club and school gymnastics and probably not the guy you would want to fight. He also happened to be my dad. He would walk on his hands for MILES down the street to school to prove how tough he was, and to build muscles that he used for boxing and gymnastics. Of this he was extremely proud.
This week as I was driving to an appointment with a client, I heard on the radio that it was possible to stop an argument in its tracks by using one simple word. Can you guess what word it is? According to Hal Runkel, a marriage and family therapist, couples who use the word "ouch" can communicate to the other person that whatever was said has hurt you and that you are showing your vulnerability. I thought about how this new piece of knowledge might assist clients with their real estate transactions and am still mulling over this. However, I have had home sellers in the past say just that - "ouch" when they received a lowball offer, or a time when a buyer received a counter offer much higher than what they were anticipating. We likely use this word more often than we realize. I honestly thought the word "ouch" was followed by a strong of swear words when you hit your head getting out of the shower, or when you stub your toe. I did not understand until this week how much power was in 4 little letters. According to psychologist John Gottman, HOW a couple argues is likely the biggest predictor in whether or not they will stay together. If disagreements are more to do with criticisms than actual complaints, Gottman believed that the relationship would not last. This is because you are generalizing about the person's overall character rather than about a specific action. Telling someone they are a lazy slob is a criticism, while saying that you are disappointed that they forgot to pick up milk on the way home from work is more of a complaint.
It’s funny how sometimes you can be driving in your car and suddenly notice a lemonade stand that seems to catch us a little off-guard. Maybe it is the homemade sign advertising the selection of drinks, or perhaps it is the plastic table with resin chairs complete with an umbrella that grabs our attention. I can still recall driving through town and coming across the time-honored tradition of the child’s lemonade stand. I felt compelled to stop and pulled over to the curb for a reason I could not explain. There were no children sitting in the chairs guiding customers to their stand when I parked, and it seemed that the lemonade stand had set business hours. Suddenly, two young children came bounding out of their front door excited to greet what was likely their very first customer of the day. Did I mention that it was 10am when I stopped to check out the lemonade stand?